long distance relationship

         I was browsing my FB wall when I stumbled upon the video that my friend tagged me on. It immediately caught my interest because of the phrase written on it. Long Distance Relationship. Hmm. Familiar. This made me remember those days from the past when I have to deal with the struggles brought about by that very set up.
        At first you think it'll be romantic (because they say distance makes the heart grow fonder so you'll miss each other more) and exciting (you'll be more thrilled by the mere thought of seeing each other because you do not do that very often), but, as time passes on, reality dawns on you. Love is not always a shade of pink.
        You long for a physical person. Someone who will walk you to your classroom, someone you can share giggles with on lunch breaks because a classmate was caught sleeping or a frown because your teacher just belched all throughout the period how ill-behaved your class is, someone who'll make your friends tease you because they see him on the corridor waiting for your last period to be dismissed, someone who insists on paying your fare at the jeepney (mind you, its one of my favorite part..lol), someone whom your mother can invite for dinner to thank him for bringing you home everyday, someone who'll play with your little sister, someone you can drag to the mall every time you feel like watching a movie, and someone whom you spend carefree moments without regard on time,without hurrying because he has to catch a trip and go back to his place, without the pressure of making every bit of it a good one because you do not always have that leisure. More time apart than together.
         But, what you fail to see, is that its a double edged sword, that your partner also shares the same dilemma, the same pain and longing that you think only you could feel. You miss his efforts to fill for those times that he had been away from you, to make up for those days when he can't hug you when your mind is troubled, when he can't kiss you to ease away your pain, and for all those times when you just need someone to stand by your side and simply listen as you chatter away your fear and disappointments, your hopes and your dreams.
         That like you, he also needs a trusted confidant, a friend, a woman. Someone who'll laugh at his jokes no matter how corny it is, who'll put a hand at his mouth when he laughs so loudly in public, who'll wipe his sweaty forehead because he didn't bring a hankie. Someone who'll hold him whenever he is weaken by failure, who'll calm him down when he is devoured by anger, who'll cradle whenever a child in him wants to burst in tears, and someone who'll whisper to him an assurance that he'll always be a man who will be loved and cherished despite of his foolishness and shortcomings.
         At the end of the day, I think the miles that keeps you two apart is what won't matter most. It's the understanding, the trust, the faith, and most importantly, the love.
        
         To quote Nicholas Sparks, "So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday."

         So kudos to all who have survived, and opted to never let go no matter how rough  the waters had been. Keep your sail strong...and your PASSION stronger... ")